How to Ask a Guy Out: 7 Proven Tips to Attracting The Man You Desire

When it comes to relationships and dating, never ever ask a guy out. So, why write this article then? It’s simple. You can and should know how to ask a guy out without asking him out. The society must have made it feel like it’s abnormal to ask a guy out. But then is it? Or is it because the society said so?

The world is evolving, and so are beliefs. Even culture is not left out. And that is why what used to be strange is no longer strange. Gone are those days when waiting for a man to ask a lady out is the only way to be in a relationship with the opposite sex. It is not as if only the man can make choices. The female can too.

As a lady, approaching a guy to ask him out might be a risk. Often times you will you will hear a "nope", a "sorry", or a "not interested." So how do you go about it? Here are a few steps I consider normal and okay to take in “asking a guy out” without asking him out. 

Body language

Body language shapes the way he sees you. Some specific body languages will pass a message across to him about your interest in him. You could face him and look at him. Ensure he notices you are stealing a look. Eye contact is very important when it comes to increasing the attraction level. But Pair that with a smile and you’ll get double the effect. 

Don’t reveal it

You can dress in a way that sends man to the third heaven, and yet not look whorish. It turns off most men. You must be creative about how to look attractive without exposing your womanly qualities. It is important because men are out there for several reasons.

Some, for one night stand, some for a serious relationship. Your dressing determines which of the two categories approaches you. Personally, I have a keen interest in women who look attractive without actually showing anything. 

Confidence 

One very important weapon to get your desired man is confidence. Be the type that knows what she wants and how to get it without exceeding your boundaries. Your confidence could be mistaken for arrogance, and trust me, that’s the last thing a man will want to put up with in any form of relationship.

Watch your comportment and posture. Read articles on super model. Do everything that makes your confidence boost. This attracts men instantly. Be confident in yourself and your achievements, and the way you’re going to do this is by always keeping in mind the positive and good things you have in your life.

Be positive

Being positive can be magical. It creates an atmosphere that no one will want to ignore. Express it through your smile whether or not you have the perfect pearl white teeth. It doesn’t matter, especially when your smile is sincere. Men will be happy to be around you because such attitude can reflect on them as well.

No man wants to approach moody and pale faced woman no matter how pretty she is. Smile automatically motivates a man to approach you. The mystery of smile is applicable to everyone, regardless of sex, age, race or other differences.  Your smile should be the first thing he should notice about you. For you, it is a trade mark.

Be yourself 

Don’t ever try to fake it. Don’t ever be ashamed yourself. If you are confident, you won’t. Guys dislike it. What attracts men the most is a real woman. Show him what kind of person you are. The last thing you should do is act like you are a big fan of basketball when you are not. Conversations could turn boring cos he would always want to talk about basketball.

Be humorous

Humor is a great way to attract a guy to you, and to make him be interested in you, and if you’re wondering why, it’s simply because men love to be around women who are entertaining and know how to make him laugh. A lady that jokes around has an edge over others when it comes to attracting men.

Scent

According to survey, 89 % of the men revealed that the scent can enhance the attractiveness of women. It is a powerful subconscious influence that affects our judgments about the other sex.

Use a perfume that you like but be modest in doing it. Use it sparingly and apply it to your wrists, behind your ears, in the bend of your elbow, behind your knees and on the inside of your ankles.

Also spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist. Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind. Avoid strong perfumes and smells that will irritate rather than attract them to you.

Ask him out

If you feel you have the ere to go a little further and dare asking, you must understand the right place and time to ask him out. The worst thing that can happen is he will say "no". Invite him to a specific activity. Start with little talk that will lead to why you like him.

Let him know that if the date doesn't work out you'll still be willing to be his friend and if it does then you can go on a second date. He wants to know you won't be so mad. If you are shy, you could paste a sticker on his phone or laptop.

You could also put a note on his locker, book, bag or anything he can’t do without. And If you really want to ask the guy out but are afraid to do it in person, you could just call him up and ask him out over the phone.

Conclusion

Start working on your smile and confidence, relax and get ready to woo a guy with your natural charm! It’s all it takes. Be yourself, and let your personality shine through. Be mysterious and playful.  Awake the explorer in him. Let him do most of the talking.

Flirt intensively with 90% body-language and only 10 % with words. Contradict yourself, confuse him. Try to make an all-senses-explosion: looks, taste, music, scent.  Take care never to appear too needy. Now that you can attract any man and get his attention, don’t wait baby. Let’s do this.